Poolside Ambience in VA…

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One of the most important aspects of life is to know when and how to wind down the hustle. Relaxation, Zen or special moments are necessary to re-charge the mind and body with the energy needed to keep going full steam ahead.

“What A Man” That Dapper Luq, model and host extraordinaire dropped a bit of classy sophistication on the Hampton Roads area of Virginia with his poolside brunch.

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As the guest entered this beautiful mansion you could see a look of amazement in everyone’s facial expressions. I actually heard a very handsome young man from New York comment, “Wowww this is soooo lit”, and I sipped my mimosa in total agreement. I came to mingle, look pretty and enjoy the ambience of the upper echelon on the V.I.P. level…Yaasss Lovebugs all of my intentions were accomplished and then some.

Brunch2 Author Dakota Somerville

Listen up! whenever I hear the name drop of “Chef J Ponder”, I know exactly what time it is. Every morsel of food that hit my palate was on one hundred in taste, as well as presentation. I can see a very extensive bright culinary future ahead for this young chef and his team.

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Chef J Ponder & Team (every foodies dream)

I must admit…I was impressed with the lovely landscaping, the horses in the background added a certain out of the city experience. The live DJ kept the guest dancing around the pool, giving a vibe of a day party type event. Lounging upstairs in the V.I.P. section was the ultimate Zen moment for me, can I tell you I almost fell asleep.

Congratulations “Dapper Luq” I can assure you every one had a blast.

Author and Photo Credit: Dakota Somerville aka DakotaVibe

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The Cougar Effect Unzipped

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An older woman dating younger men, as a rule of thumb, has forever been looked upon as reprehensible, to a certain degree. Pick up any magazine, flip a page, and unveil a story of how some older female celebrity, just acquired a new boy toy. Society however, loves to celebrate an older man in a relationship with a much younger woman. Blah, Blah, Blah, it’s the same old stereotypical cliché. Let’s take a look at living life as a so-called cougar, from a perspective of experience. Dating and relationships, nowadays, require a certain level of creativity, thinking outside of the box.
About ten years ago, I decided to let go of my prudish concept, of what I was told, a healthy dating life, and or relationship, should look like. At this point in the Single Mom’s game, I had to come to terms with the quality of time being spent, far outweighing, the amount of time spent. Once the blinders came off, I could clearly see, every man in my dating age demographic of 40-65 years old had a different story, agenda, as well as approach.
Laughter, the ultimate cure-all, said to be the best medicine, was the first endearing characteristic I found to be attractive in dating younger men. Every single one, I’ve ever gone out with had the ability to make me giggle, at some point during the date. Maybe that’s just the baby-girl in me, okay, call it what you want. It’s a proven scientific fact; laughter releases endorphins, thus making you feel good.
Eagerness, the enthusiasm to please, going above and beyond to be well-groomed, wanting and putting forth every effort, to gain your undivided attention. Whether you admit this or not, every woman desires a man who thinks she’s special, something like, being put up on a pedestal. I love the contagious energy, of dating a younger man. Yes, I’m a sucker for early morning sexting, compliments, candle lit dinners (cooked by him), motivating mood music, dancing in the living room, all of the above, defines exactly what a cougar enjoys.
Companionship, expressed with the intention of friendship, closeness and or, possibly a
relationship. Younger men, pursue older women, for what they believe to be a more pleasurable, advanced, freaky, yet, a consensual sexual experience. Cougar’s, are not always, predator’s roaming the earth looking for her prey, either! I’ve had many intelligent conversations, with younger men who willing admit, they choose to date women, 10, 15, 20 years their senior, specifically to enjoy her level of intelligence, she shares. The older woman-younger man relationship, has many variables, only the adventurous, and brave souls get to experience, this dynamic union.
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Dating 101
  • Most women prefer not to be categorized as a “Cougar”. I consider myself to be a single, intelligent woman, who knows what type of man she’s compatible with. Of course, every relationship has a down side, problems, along with day-to-day challenges. Realistically, why would this be any different? I’m often reminded of those descriptive throwback 70’s song lyrics, by Bill Withers, “Use Me” Quote: I want to spread the news, that if it feels this good getting used, Just keep on using me, till you use me up” While society snaps its ugly teeth, at such a relationship, ultimately, “age ain’t nothing but a number”.
    ~Dakota
    Author: Dakota Somerville
    Photo Credit: Poolside Dakota Somerville – Google Images
    Published: Werk Chic Magazine – 2016