Love Language #101

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What say you?

Recently I had the eavesdropping pleasure of overhearing an impromptu all male convo. The subject centered on women of course, (insert grin) and how these handsome gentlemen felt a certain type of way related to dating. Now listen my lovely readership, they were straight out complaining, and not holding back. I found their convo extremely interesting, specifically because of the age demographic. Every well dressed man in this group was above the age of forty, or maybe even forty plus! Check out the one comment that caused my eyes to roll sideways, just a tiny bit.

“A real woman will cook you a home cooked meal, without even asking her” 

Well, because I was not a part of this conversation, I chose to keep my opinions to myself. While I understand the meaning of the comment, I couldn’t help thinking, why would you expect a single woman to play wifey, straight out of the gate?

Feed her TACOS and tell her she’s PRETTY. Express genuine interest, put forth a little effort before expecting her to cook a meal. The simple things carry a lot of weight out here in the dating game, women are looking for men who are authentic in their love language. And Yaaassss, many of us are looking forward to cooking a home cooked meal, but speaking hypothetically, are you showing her that you are deserving of her culinary efforts.

~ Don’t shoot the messenger~ 

Author: Dakota Somerville

Photo Credit: Kela Walker/Facebook

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You Do Not Have Permission To Quit!

Mikia Shae Troche – Founder and CEO

What does the word “ENDURE” mean to you? Many of us would define the word as a form of suffering, or going through something to achieve a specific end goal. If you’re a living breathing human being, you are at some point in your life enduring through a storm. For some, it may be a little less difficult than others, which would have a person in the midst of enduring without even realizing it.

On Saturday, June 1, 2019 my spiritual soul was set ablaze from the moment I set foot into the Semi-Annual Enduring Conference, held at the Holiday Inn, in the lovely city of Virginia Beach. Author, visionary, motivational speaker, and business mentor Mikia Shae Troche greeted her conference attendees looking simply angelic in an all-white attire. You could feel the peacefulness in the room, filled with eye-catching  tones of yellow and blue, as encouraging sounds of gospel music played in the background.

I pride myself on being able to pick up positive energy vibes. Every single speaker who spilled their life’s transparency, gave me inspiring levels of goose bumps! I’ve always heard, sharing is caring, yet somehow in the process of sharing, each and every single testimony intentionally gave the room full of attendees, food for thought. Anyone who was in attendance will more than likely tell you of at least one important aspect he or she learned as a knowledgeable take-away. When you can gather together our young millennials, and our respected senior generation at the same table, smiling, chatting, and breaking bread, you’ve accomplished diversity. Vendor stations created a very relaxing experience for those who enjoy stumbling upon something a little special to take home.

Quote of the day: Neisha Himes – G.R.O.W. Foundation

“Your crown matches every outfit, never take it off”

This well-organized event included a wonderful host, comedian Ryheem Johnson captured the audience with his clean cut, and let me add entertaining humor straight out of the gate. His intermittent jokes proved to be just what was needed to change up the mood during the conference. Life is not always kind, healthy discussions of how to step up and endure any adversity being thrown at you is a topic we should all be interested in hearing. Telling a story in mime, or standing on a stage takes courage, but the healing begins way before making a choice to share your life with others. Manny Mitchell spoke enthusiastically on the storm of rejection, how starting a career with no arms proved what we all know to be true….”What GOD has for you, is for you”…

We all have a story, are you empowering others with your enduring journey?

I had the pleasure of a short interview with the founder of the Enduring Conference, Mikia Shae Troche, her spirit of authenticity glowed as bright as any diamond in the swankiest of jewelry stores. Having survived a stroke, being wheel chair bound, amongst other adversities, never gave her permission to quit. This beautiful queen endured every negative emotion imaginable, she cried, she prayed, and then with the help of her loving husband, she got up for the win.

Mikia captured the attention of her audience with a powerful heartfelt speech as she ended the conference. The topic, “You Do Not Have Permission To Quit”, resonated throughout the entire room, as if she were standing on stage with a bullhorn.

Every head nodded in agreement, without blinking an eye….

Thank you, for the amazing opportunity to blog your event, while interacting with your panel of fascinating speakers. Every testimony held value to someone in the room. Bravo Sista!

Honorable Mention: Nicole Armstrong, Juanita Ricks, Ryheem Johnson, Manny Mitchell, Jada Danielle, Jay Harris, Suzette Meeks, Neisha Himes, Shakeya Nesbitt, Tanisha Thompson, and keynote speaker Mikia Troche

Follow Enduring Conference via Facebook, be sure to attend the 2nd Semi-Annual conference on January 25, 2020.

Author: Dakota Somerville

Photo Credit: Enduring Conference, Mikia Shae Troche, Dakota Somerville

 

 

Check -Your -Soil

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As I Open my Mind

my petals become free

to be the woman

God intended me to be

As I Open my Mind

my soil becomes healthy

embracing the universal gift

that someday I will be wealthy

As I Open my Mind

i learn to SEE

with the third-eye

that was given to me

I check my SOIL

so my petals will flourish

my mind will be nourished

As I Open my Mind

weeds with thornes disappear

allowing a ray of sunshine

to miraculously re-appear

I Opened My Mind

Today.

Author: Dakota Somerville

Photo Credit: Dakota Vibe

 

 

 

Community Magic Exemplified

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“My heart is singing a tune of black girl magic on auto repeat, it’s like not being able to un-see the most beautiful women in Hampton Roads, Virginia”

What am I talking about, you may ask? Well, I’m talking about a vision that turned into a fabulous reality, on Sunday, September 16th in the heart of downtown Norfolk Virginia at the highly popular Slover Library. Dream Dap Inc. launched a charity program to help support single mothers and fathers with down payment assistance needed to purchase a home.

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Queen Claudine Ellis, Sequoia Youngblood and Celebrity Hip-Hop Artist NO Malice

Hurricane Florence was somewhat lurking in the midst of this successful event, but with hard work, lot’s of prayer warriors, and angels smiling down on the purpose intended, this party became the talk of the town. As I mingled inconspicuously through the huge crowd of attendees, everyone glammed in blue jeans and white tops with a lovely glow of happiness, set off with the biggest of smiles. Queen Claudine greeted her guest as if we all were celebrities in her eyes, from pictures on the red carpet to line dancing in the main room, O’ my goodness, how can I not mention the VIP lounge and its colorful ambience. From my personal perspective I deem this charity fundraiser as perfect in every way possible!!!

The Gourmet Appetizers were Impeccable 

Chicken & Waffles…Crab Balls…Cucumber Cream Bites

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Chef Tasha*Chef Beatrice*Chef Dominique

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Vendor*TraciLynn Jewelry*Treavce Whitmore

We are magic when we come together as a community of intelligent beautiful women, who aspire to a level of success. Special recognition and kudos’ go out to a dedicated single mother for beating the pavement to make sure everything and everyone lined up as envisioned by the founder of Dream Dap Inc., Riika Wright you are a real MVP.

1st Ever Facebook Party*Riika Wright*Energi Logan

DJ Dave Champion entertained the crowd with a diverse music sound, a bit of old mixed with the new. Group “KARAOKE” was as much fun to watch, as it must have been to participate, judging from the laughter and enthusiasm of the party goers. The fabulous stage host Ginger Savage killed her themed outfit with studded six-inch heels, every woman in the room, including myself had major shoe envy…..

Ginger Savage and Dakota Vibe enjoying the rooftop

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Vendor*Pink Zebra*Candle Wax Display Smells of Heaven

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When your heart is filled with a giving spirit, it becomes a vibe that will attract an awesome tribe. Let us all raise our glasses to the future success of Dream Dap Inc., single mothers and fathers who connect with this wonderful charity will forever remember Claudine Ellis, we however, like to refer to her as Queen Claudine.

~BRAVO JOB WELL DONE

For information: Visit Dream Dap Inc. via Facebook

Author: Dakota Somerville

Photo Credit: Dakota Vibe and Facebook Attendees

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A Party With A Purpose

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Philanthropy never looked so beautiful, with her vision, and a dream to help single moms and dads become home owners.

Hampton Roads, better known as “Southeastern Virginia” is well-known for it’s highly publicized social events. On September 16th, you don’t want to miss out on the opportunity to be a part of history in the making. Dream Girl Claudine Ellis will set the Slover Library on fire, with her new project launch, Dream DAP, Inc.

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The 1st EVER Facebook Day-Party will not only bring together many of the areas movers and shakers, this clearly thought out brainstorm will unite a very supportive community of volunteers and those who have a village mindset of togetherness.

WHEN: Sunday, September 16, 2018
WHERE: Slover Library, 235 Plume Street, Norfolk, VA 23510
TIME: 1pm-5pm
THEME: White Top and Blue Jeans

Come out, take Pics on the Red Carpet, win prizes, shop vendor stations, while you enjoy scrumptious food items, but don’t get too full, because dancing is highly recommended for this lit day party. I have one hundred brand new business cards ready to go, as I mingle about, blogging the DEETS of the DAY, in all my Cuteness!

Norfolk, Virginia has never seen anything of this magnitude when it comes to a day party in a downtown library. The Slover Library and its magnificent glass architecture is the perfect venue to kick-off all of the hard work, media chats, and long hours of planning put in by Claudine and her dream team.

                   “A PARTY WITH A PURPOSE”

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Good food shall be consumed, laughter will fill the room, friendships will be made, while positive inspiration overtakes the hearts and minds of all who attend…..

Author: Dakota Somerville

Photo Credit: Dakota Somerville, Claudine Ellis – Photographer 

 

Dear Universe You Got Me?

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I’ve been thinking for sometime now, well, maybe more like dreaming…

I can see myself on a tropical island slowly swinging back and forth, with the sound of a calming wave rolling up to the shoreline.

In the background holiday tunes are creating one smile after another, hey it’s Christmas and the world is full of joy and happiness.

“DEAR UNIVERSE YOU GOT ME”

Hello Love, you look spectacular tonight, and by the way I love your braids, Sooo he whispered in my ear.

How often do we dream, or should I say we manifest, or perhaps we experience a repeated version of DEJA VU…..

~SPILLED INK~

Author: Dakota Somerville

Photo Credit: Holland – IG

How to “WIN” my ❤

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….show up and show out baby, can you grill? 

“A man who can cook is like getting a new pair of Red Bottoms, you can’t wait to tell everybody about them.”

Seriously, some men have a misguided idea of what I like, want and need in my life. Today, I’m here to set the record straight for my male associates who may be remotely interested in this tidbit of information.

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Humor, laughter, and being able to laugh at one’s self, that my reader of the day is a mega plus in my book. Life is full of negative unhappy people who can’t seem to let adversity do what it needs to; while smiling in its ugly face!

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I had a date last month who without hesitation, sat patiently and listened to an entire “Script” I recently wrote, that meant absolutely everything to me! I found it to be extremely sexy, almost orgasmic. A writer wants someone who is interested in sharing dialogue…..it matters not what the topic of convo is, as long as we are communicating.

So now you have the deets to win my heart ❤….what say you?

Author: Dakota Somerville

Photo Credit: Butterfly J. Heart

#RandomRealTalk

Broken Breath…

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I inhaled your spirit 

one to many times

now 

I can’t breathe…

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Oftentimes we forget to breathe in the love of our heavenly power, we forget to exhale the negativity spoken to us; sometimes on a daily basis. Remind yourself, you too can breathe a fresh new vibration without any hesitation. I was inspired this morning by a very simple, yet profound quote from pastor Joel Osteen.

If GOD had a refrigerator, your picture would be on it.

Every human has encountered a season of broken breath along this journey called life, shhhhh….whisper and repeat….”I can breathe again”.

Author: Dakota Somerville – Poetry Corner

Photo Credit: Cathy Flicker – google

 

 

 

A Taste of Spring Review

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NETWORK makes the dream work, an old cliché I’ve heard many times before, and here’s another one for you, NO MAN is an island…so what exactly do those quotes mean. I like to think in terms of like-minded business professionals coming together to share, discuss, create, and throw around new ideas related to creating revenue or just mind swapping ideas to better their community.

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Celebrity Chef Ponder and Dapper Luq hosted “A Taste of Spring”, on Saturday, April 7th at Stratford College, located in Virginia Beach, Va. It was a cold rainy night, with a strong breezy wind, yet everyone in attendance was pleasant and thoroughly enjoyable. Lot’s of networking took place, chit chats about massage therapy, upcoming modeling adventures, and changing the narrative of some African-American issues via community forums.

Every single morsel of food was beyond exquisite, my favorite of the night was the melt in your mouth crab cakes…I fell into a serious foodie coma.

CLASSY AND FOREVER SASSY……..

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JARED J and his lovely date

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HOST DAPPER LUQ and guest

Congratulations, once again on a super cool networking event, perfect for the Hampton Roads area of Southeastern Virginia, I’m already looking forward to the next one. Your team, including the lovely bartender Patricia Rountree kept the energy vibe flowing.

“BRAVO to the DAPPER ONE”

Author: Dakota Somerville

Photo Credit: Jared J Howe and Dakota

 

 

 

Perhaps I should just relax…

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Spilled Ink…

You beat me up no matter the direction of my effort’s

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You slapped me with a lesson on being humble…and I sat down

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You pulled at my heart-strings until no sound could be heard

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But wait…my dearest 2017

you somehow forgot I am a living breathing phoenix

I Rise from the ashes

hand claps to my new bae 2018

Author: Dakota Somerville

Photo Credit: Google