Love Language #101

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What say you?

Recently I had the eavesdropping pleasure of overhearing an impromptu all male convo. The subject centered on women of course, (insert grin) and how these handsome gentlemen felt a certain type of way related to dating. Now listen my lovely readership, they were straight out complaining, and not holding back. I found their convo extremely interesting, specifically because of the age demographic. Every well dressed man in this group was above the age of forty, or maybe even forty plus! Check out the one comment that caused my eyes to roll sideways, just a tiny bit.

“A real woman will cook you a home cooked meal, without even asking her” 

Well, because I was not a part of this conversation, I chose to keep my opinions to myself. While I understand the meaning of the comment, I couldn’t help thinking, why would you expect a single woman to play wifey, straight out of the gate?

Feed her TACOS and tell her she’s PRETTY. Express genuine interest, put forth a little effort before expecting her to cook a meal. The simple things carry a lot of weight out here in the dating game, women are looking for men who are authentic in their love language. And Yaaassss, many of us are looking forward to cooking a home cooked meal, but speaking hypothetically, are you showing her that you are deserving of her culinary efforts.

~ Don’t shoot the messenger~ 

Author: Dakota Somerville

Photo Credit: Kela Walker/Facebook

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‘Shades of Life Networking Soiree’

 

Dr. Dionne Gibbs, Nurse, CNE, Nurse Administrator, Owner and Operator of Shades of Life Coaching and Consulting Service.

You know you’re a powerhouse, when your positive energy enters the room long before you actually make an appearance. The quiet chatter amongst the excited attendees, gave notice that we were about to gain a wealth of life-long knowledge. Entrepreneur’s, family, and old friends came together to celebrate the branding launch of “Shades of Life”, the new coaching and consulting business, spearheaded by Dr. Gibbs. On Friday, June 28th, the beautiful Slover Library in Norfolk, Virginia, was once again the perfect venue, including its magnificent roof-top area overlooking the city.

“Walk upright in your purpose, and support other women”

Dr. Gibbs spoke passionately to her audience on the subject of holding yourself accountable when you have fallen into that space you need help coming out of, first and foremost you must recognize where you are in achieving your goals. If you need to wiggle, then wiggle your way back to that positive space. Networking was at its peak level during the event, others began to acknowledge the resources sitting next to them.

I am absolutely certain every person in the room felt empowered, as well as uplifted and consciously motivated. Dr. Gibbs is on a solid mission to serve, which includes a pursuit and purpose of educating, elevating, and empowering women of all ages to be the best version of themselves while finding their true purpose within the current journey in life.

She wore a gorgeous red jumpsuit, and we all know red is a power color representing energy and determination. Dr. Gibbs was a lovely hostess, as she moved about with her arms extended, greeting her guest with warm hugs and words of encouragement. O’ wow, let me tell you how the aroma of delicious food easily flowed out to the sexy roof-top patio eating area, highlighted by a lovely warm summer’s night.

I personally made a great network connection with a fierce spoken word artist by the name of Neisha Himes, of the Grow Foundation. My love of poetry attracts the deepest souls, we always link, like kindred spirits. I recognized her captivating voice from a previous event I had just recently blogged. As she stood front and center to give her poetic rendition of “Dear Broken Woman”, I knew she was the one to perform a special piece from my poetry repertoire. And that my readership is the essence of a networking event.

“How can I teach my daughter the definition of a strong woman, when my own weakness defines me in a dictionary I don’t want to read anymore”

Poem: Dear Broken Woman      Artist: Neisha Himes

To recap the “Shades of Life Soiree” in one blog is nearly impossible. I believe the mission statement was well accomplished, bringing like-minded individuals into one room for the sole purpose of networking. Dr. Gibbs has been coaching and consulting in her daily work life for quite some time, now that she has branched out specifically with that purpose in mind, it’s a definite win for the Hampton Roads Community. I’ve spent some time researching her platform of empowerment, many of you will be amazed at how kind, yet very direct her statements come across, and how easy her goal setting principals will apply to your life. Let me be the first to congratulate Dr. Gibbs on a very successful brand launch.

Food for thought:

If you are looking for someone to hold you accountable through the steps of your success journey, contact Dr. Dionne Gibbs.

http://www.shadesoflifecoaching.com

Facebook: Dionne Gibbs

Author: Dakota Somerville

Photo Credit: Dakota Vibe/Dionne Gibbs

You Do Not Have Permission To Quit!

Mikia Shae Troche – Founder and CEO

What does the word “ENDURE” mean to you? Many of us would define the word as a form of suffering, or going through something to achieve a specific end goal. If you’re a living breathing human being, you are at some point in your life enduring through a storm. For some, it may be a little less difficult than others, which would have a person in the midst of enduring without even realizing it.

On Saturday, June 1, 2019 my spiritual soul was set ablaze from the moment I set foot into the Semi-Annual Enduring Conference, held at the Holiday Inn, in the lovely city of Virginia Beach. Author, visionary, motivational speaker, and business mentor Mikia Shae Troche greeted her conference attendees looking simply angelic in an all-white attire. You could feel the peacefulness in the room, filled with eye-catching  tones of yellow and blue, as encouraging sounds of gospel music played in the background.

I pride myself on being able to pick up positive energy vibes. Every single speaker who spilled their life’s transparency, gave me inspiring levels of goose bumps! I’ve always heard, sharing is caring, yet somehow in the process of sharing, each and every single testimony intentionally gave the room full of attendees, food for thought. Anyone who was in attendance will more than likely tell you of at least one important aspect he or she learned as a knowledgeable take-away. When you can gather together our young millennials, and our respected senior generation at the same table, smiling, chatting, and breaking bread, you’ve accomplished diversity. Vendor stations created a very relaxing experience for those who enjoy stumbling upon something a little special to take home.

Quote of the day: Neisha Himes – G.R.O.W. Foundation

“Your crown matches every outfit, never take it off”

This well-organized event included a wonderful host, comedian Ryheem Johnson captured the audience with his clean cut, and let me add entertaining humor straight out of the gate. His intermittent jokes proved to be just what was needed to change up the mood during the conference. Life is not always kind, healthy discussions of how to step up and endure any adversity being thrown at you is a topic we should all be interested in hearing. Telling a story in mime, or standing on a stage takes courage, but the healing begins way before making a choice to share your life with others. Manny Mitchell spoke enthusiastically on the storm of rejection, how starting a career with no arms proved what we all know to be true….”What GOD has for you, is for you”…

We all have a story, are you empowering others with your enduring journey?

I had the pleasure of a short interview with the founder of the Enduring Conference, Mikia Shae Troche, her spirit of authenticity glowed as bright as any diamond in the swankiest of jewelry stores. Having survived a stroke, being wheel chair bound, amongst other adversities, never gave her permission to quit. This beautiful queen endured every negative emotion imaginable, she cried, she prayed, and then with the help of her loving husband, she got up for the win.

Mikia captured the attention of her audience with a powerful heartfelt speech as she ended the conference. The topic, “You Do Not Have Permission To Quit”, resonated throughout the entire room, as if she were standing on stage with a bullhorn.

Every head nodded in agreement, without blinking an eye….

Thank you, for the amazing opportunity to blog your event, while interacting with your panel of fascinating speakers. Every testimony held value to someone in the room. Bravo Sista!

Honorable Mention: Nicole Armstrong, Juanita Ricks, Ryheem Johnson, Manny Mitchell, Jada Danielle, Jay Harris, Suzette Meeks, Neisha Himes, Shakeya Nesbitt, Tanisha Thompson, and keynote speaker Mikia Troche

Follow Enduring Conference via Facebook, be sure to attend the 2nd Semi-Annual conference on January 25, 2020.

Author: Dakota Somerville

Photo Credit: Enduring Conference, Mikia Shae Troche, Dakota Somerville

 

 

Check -Your -Soil

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As I Open my Mind

my petals become free

to be the woman

God intended me to be

As I Open my Mind

my soil becomes healthy

embracing the universal gift

that someday I will be wealthy

As I Open my Mind

i learn to SEE

with the third-eye

that was given to me

I check my SOIL

so my petals will flourish

my mind will be nourished

As I Open my Mind

weeds with thornes disappear

allowing a ray of sunshine

to miraculously re-appear

I Opened My Mind

Today.

Author: Dakota Somerville

Photo Credit: Dakota Vibe

 

 

 

“Bea Great, Bea Positive, Bea You”

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Mouth Watering Sweet Potato Cheesecake Dessert

Have you ever dreamed of having your own personal chef? Of course, we sometimes crave those delectable homemade yummies we see displayed on our television screens. About a year ago, I became acquainted with a young single mother, who also happened to be an aspiring chef on the rise. She was somewhat soft spoken, but I could see she was ever so hungry to succeed. I really connected with Chef Bea, also known as Chef Beatrice Copeland, owner of ‘Oh My Loaf, LLC.

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It gives me a tremendous amount of pleasure to watch this young chef blossom in the business woman she always hoped to be. Its inspiring, anytime a single mother works towards her dreams, you can find me somewhere in the background cheering her on. I had a chance to stop by Chef Bea’s pop up Sunday Brunch, located in Virginia Beach, at the well known Phoenix Restaurant and Lounge. Now listen, I’m nowhere near being a food critic, but what I admittedly am is a foodie girl. The atmosphere was warm and friendly, highlighting my down to earth palate with every food item I love, including an omelet station, shrimp and grits, with an assortment of fruit.

Chef Beatrice, your new positive mantra is certainly appropriate for the trajectory of your culinary path, salute from one single mother to another.

Bea Great, Bea Positive, Bea You

Exciting moves are on the horizon for this lovely young chef, soon she will be blessing us with a bakery filled with sweet treats, and vegan choices, as well. Plans are underway for a easy to access location in the Military Circle Mall food court. Currently Chef Bea has a variety of vegan, dairy free treats available in Norfolk, at Jikoni Café. Stop by and grab a vegan banana bread loaf, or perhaps you’re a chocolate chip lover, is so, check out her newest creation…Chocolate Chip Vegan Banana Bread! O’ My Loaf….Well done baby girl, keep baking your way one loaf at a time, success is closer than it appears.

Fresh product shipping is available as needed. For your unique personal chef experience, you can find Chef Beatrice via social media.

Instagram: Chef_bea7          Facebook: ChefBea Copeland

Photo Credit: Dakota Somerville & Chef Beatrice Copeland

Author: Dakota Somerville

 

“I’m a grown woman with Moods and Attitudes”

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Have you ever felt like a chameleon? If you are a woman, of course you have, based on the circumstances surrounding your day-to-day life. There are moments of loneliness, when the only thing you can do is to close your beautiful eyes, embrace yourself with positive affirmations, and secure your head space with self-love.

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Have you ever felt like a princess? I can personally answer yes, maybe even a vintage princess, one who knows he’s not coming into your life riding the proverbial white horse. No….he’s stepping to your world, fully confident of his capabilities to make you happy.

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Have you ever felt like the queen of side-eye? At some point in life, you will need to give them the business, and own every single glare. Remind your mental psyche that you are a grown woman with moods and attitudes.

Author: Dakota Somerville

Photo Credit: Bronze Magazine, photographer Shanal Belton

 

Alex Malay Brand

alexmaylayblogpic1“Love and Light”, as frequently quoted by owner and CEO, Rochell Malay of the global mega brand, Alex Malay. Starting a brand new year, celebrating their six-year anniversary at the top of 2019, her brand’s style and vision proves Alex Malay has definitely landed in the world of high fashion.
As many of her fashion followers may already know, Rochell began her creative business sense years ago, as a young child. She embraced a hard work ethic from her family, spinning those endearing qualities into the timeless fashion brand you see before you today. Women like to feel unique, you can also add super special, whatever your lifestyle goals are to enhance inner beauty, this brand has something designed just for you.

“We wish you to be your own kind of beautiful, and a great way to express that is through fashion”

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Oftentimes we find ourselves at a loss when it comes to gift giving, imagine just for a moment, that you are a lovely bride to be, pondering on a gift selection for each of your bridesmaids. Alex Malay has you covered, choose the “Angelic Soy Wax Candle”, with an enchanting aroma scent. Any bridal shower would certainly benefit from a beautiful display of gorgeous pink bags, filled with love, as a bonus, you may consider dropping a “Girl Power T-Shirt” in each bag. Set up a fun bridal photo shoot, someplace where you, and your bridesmaids can kick back wearing your matching T-Shirt’s. Being the classic beauty you aspire to be, is the overall mission statement for this brand.
Shopping Alex Malay should be an experience not limited to women only, there are a large number of men globally who also derive a great amount of pleasure in selecting a special outfit for that beautiful lady in their lives. He is the man who always wants his significant other to look and feel like a princess, from the inside out, when they enter the room, he is the man who wants heads to turn in adornment.

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This is a season must have for an elegant evening out and about, any man would love the rich vibrant navy tone of the “Royal Gala Skirt”, paired with a classic vintage style black fur throw.

“You never get a second chance to make a first impression”

Alex Malay is a fashion brand on the rise, capturing the attention of global customers, followers, and fans who adore the feeling of wearing such a creative style of clothing. Her integrity as a business owner is evident in the quality of her products. Timeless style and confidence are a few of her core principles, she gives you a feeling of beauty unmatched by any other brand. Women all over the world, are rushing around dealing with the everyday hustle and bustle of daily life, after all it’s the twenty-first century, and truly the age of girl power. The entire Alex Malay team is just a click away from helping you figure out your next outfit needed for any special occasion, or perhaps to just enhance your wardrobe a bit. Stay connected for the upcoming announcement of her new fashion boutique, which will be located in Baton Rouge, Louisiana, where you will be sure to find a little something to make your heart smile.

Blogger: Dakota Somerville

Photo Credit: Alex Malay

Shop: http://www.alexmalay.com

 

 

 

What’s Cooking 757

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“Hampton Roads, Va., a virtual melting pot of all ethnicities, link up for their own tasty personal experience of what can be referred to as a nom-nom heaven”.

As a freelance lifestyle writer of all things interesting, I’m always finding myself deeply engrossed in a tiny bit of this and that!

Much to my surprise, I stumble across events along the way that merit sharing with my reader’s.

December, and January are two months of the year where you may find yourself either eating too much, or beginning a diet of some sort. Well, this blog post is for the foodie lover in you. Chef Tasha Roberts and Chef Beatrice Copeland have set out to tickle your inner foodie, Yes, the review’s are coming in more than favorable.

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Chef Bea: Top – Chef Tasha: Below

The Best Shrimp & Grits Competition was held in Norfolk, Va, Dec 2018. O’ if you missed this event, let me just give you a few highlights. Chef Jessee took home the trophy, the audience, judges, and fellow chefs concluded his dish was exquisitely prepared to warm, as well as, change the heart’s of non grit lovers.

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Winning Dish: Chef Jesse Seward

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Judge: Riika with Chef Jesse

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Judges Table: Riika, Claudine, Dakota with well-known Food Blogger/Host Yummo Buko.

“Blackgirl Magic is no doubt what’s cooking in the 757” 

On January 20th, this culinary duo will launch a chopped style cooking event, featuring four local chef’s, cooking and chopping their way to being crowned a Top Chef. We at the judges table, will cast our votes based upon a strong list of criteria, including presentation. Good luck to the participants…chop…chop!

Celebrity shout out goes to comedian Lunell Campbell, the queen of funny. How cool was it for Chef Tasha to have Lunell join her in the studio kitchen of the Hampton Roads Show. I personally follow Lunell via social media, she can cook up some greatness herself, so two snaps Chef Tasha, you’ve won, Lunell raved about your jambalaya.

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Comedian “Lunell” loves Bonjou Style

O MY LOAF….

Congratulations to Chef Beatrice on the launch of her eye-catching culinary pop up shop, “O MY LOAF”. Serving sweet homemade treats, like sweet potato cheesecake, I can see this one becoming a number one consumer favorite.

Entrepreneurship isn’t easy by any means, salute to these two young woman, who are quickly becoming the movers and shakers in the 757 area. For future events, you can follow both Chefs via Facebook.

BRAVO QUEENS ~

Author: Dakota Somerville

Photo Credit: DakotaVibe – Facebook

 

 

 

Community Magic Exemplified

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“My heart is singing a tune of black girl magic on auto repeat, it’s like not being able to un-see the most beautiful women in Hampton Roads, Virginia”

What am I talking about, you may ask? Well, I’m talking about a vision that turned into a fabulous reality, on Sunday, September 16th in the heart of downtown Norfolk Virginia at the highly popular Slover Library. Dream Dap Inc. launched a charity program to help support single mothers and fathers with down payment assistance needed to purchase a home.

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Queen Claudine Ellis, Sequoia Youngblood and Celebrity Hip-Hop Artist NO Malice

Hurricane Florence was somewhat lurking in the midst of this successful event, but with hard work, lot’s of prayer warriors, and angels smiling down on the purpose intended, this party became the talk of the town. As I mingled inconspicuously through the huge crowd of attendees, everyone glammed in blue jeans and white tops with a lovely glow of happiness, set off with the biggest of smiles. Queen Claudine greeted her guest as if we all were celebrities in her eyes, from pictures on the red carpet to line dancing in the main room, O’ my goodness, how can I not mention the VIP lounge and its colorful ambience. From my personal perspective I deem this charity fundraiser as perfect in every way possible!!!

The Gourmet Appetizers were Impeccable 

Chicken & Waffles…Crab Balls…Cucumber Cream Bites

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Chef Tasha*Chef Beatrice*Chef Dominique

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Vendor*TraciLynn Jewelry*Treavce Whitmore

We are magic when we come together as a community of intelligent beautiful women, who aspire to a level of success. Special recognition and kudos’ go out to a dedicated single mother for beating the pavement to make sure everything and everyone lined up as envisioned by the founder of Dream Dap Inc., Riika Wright you are a real MVP.

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DJ Dave Champion entertained the crowd with a diverse music sound, a bit of old mixed with the new. Group “KARAOKE” was as much fun to watch, as it must have been to participate, judging from the laughter and enthusiasm of the party goers. The fabulous stage host Ginger Savage killed her themed outfit with studded six-inch heels, every woman in the room, including myself had major shoe envy…..

Ginger Savage and Dakota Vibe enjoying the rooftop

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Vendor*Pink Zebra*Candle Wax Display Smells of Heaven

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When your heart is filled with a giving spirit, it becomes a vibe that will attract an awesome tribe. Let us all raise our glasses to the future success of Dream Dap Inc., single mothers and fathers who connect with this wonderful charity will forever remember Claudine Ellis, we however, like to refer to her as Queen Claudine.

~BRAVO JOB WELL DONE

For information: Visit Dream Dap Inc. via Facebook

Author: Dakota Somerville

Photo Credit: Dakota Vibe and Facebook Attendees

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Dear Universe You Got Me?

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I’ve been thinking for sometime now, well, maybe more like dreaming…

I can see myself on a tropical island slowly swinging back and forth, with the sound of a calming wave rolling up to the shoreline.

In the background holiday tunes are creating one smile after another, hey it’s Christmas and the world is full of joy and happiness.

“DEAR UNIVERSE YOU GOT ME”

Hello Love, you look spectacular tonight, and by the way I love your braids, Sooo he whispered in my ear.

How often do we dream, or should I say we manifest, or perhaps we experience a repeated version of DEJA VU…..

~SPILLED INK~

Author: Dakota Somerville

Photo Credit: Holland – IG